When Questioning turns to Interrogation

Questioning. (noun) an act of expressing a question.

Interrogation. (noun) a 'thorough' questioning.

How would you feel when a simple question turns into a rude demand of information about your personal thing? It is hard, isn't it? Awkward. Inappropriate. "It's none of your business." would be the best response. But it's still all up to you if you will feed people's curiosity or just turn around and ignore them.

As mentioned in my previous blogs, sex and sexuality have been the most sought-after subject inside the training room. Everybody's game to talk about it. Questions are just being thrown to anyone, though no one is forced to answer and give the truth.

I have this wave mate who's sexuality is being questioned. Many are puzzled and curious to know it. And then the day came when everybody's in mood to ask him. The bomb was dropped. "Are you gay?" He denied, saying that he had a girlfriend before. Many were not satisfied with his answer, but he insisted that he's straight. My wave mates kept on asking him questions that I really find stupid. He was on the spot. He's feeling the awkwardness. I politely raised my hand and said something, "It takes one to know one (according to a friend, which I believe). You are gay." I did not mean to offend him. I immediately told him that I didn't mean any offense and there is nothing wrong about being gay. I also tell the whole wave that asking him about his real preference is not really important. I told them to treat him the way they want to treat him. Treat him as a gay if you think he's gay and treat him a straight guy if you think he's straight. As simple as that. Because at the end of the day, other people's treatment would really not matter. Its how YOU, yourself, treat and RESPECT your own lovely self. On a different note, you may make a fool out of us, but you can't fool yourself. And so he admitted it. He said he's bisexual (another thing that I can't believe of, and that's another topic).

No one would want to be put on the spot. No one would want to be questioned or interrogated. I just realize that people should always think of Confucius' golden rule. "Do unto others what you want others do unto you." It has been a cliche but it really does apply to all kinds of circumstances. Maybe it was named as 'the golden rule' for it is truly precious and important to be realized and eventually be applied in our real everyday life.

:-)love!